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Old March 31st, 2014 #1
Alex Linder
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Life Hacks ‏@TipsForYouDaily 12m
We tend to believe others pay attention to our behavior and appearance much more than they actually do. This is called the spotlight effect

[this is a huge thing. most things are not about you or directed at you. it just seems like that from where you are standing. next time you ASSUME someone is doing something to hurt you, go over it very carefully to make sure that you are correct. more often than not the person is doing something for INTERNAL reasons that don't have a goddam thing to do with you - it just FEELS that way from where you are standing. other people, remember, are as self-absorbed in their problems and wants and needs as you are.]